Can You Attract?

Are you new at school, organizations or other school clubs? Or new to a particular place where you don’t know anyone?
Everybody experience it, not only you! But then, don’t you think that it is so sad to go to a party or in a school without someone you know? And the hardest part is how to attract a new friend.
Here are some pointers according to the book I have read entitled: Black Book on “Cool” by Blaine Bartel and some are my insights about it.
First on the list is to “SMILE”. It’s a very small thing but it really means a lot. Giving it to someone you exactly don’t know will give them happiness and at the same time, it will be a sign for a new friendship with them. But remember this verse, “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24). When you give your smile, pour it out with love and truthfulness to have a new friend not only a companion because there is a big difference between the two according to the verse. Companions may go but friends will last forever.
Second is to “LISTEN”. Selfishness is in nature of man specially when talking to others but for us to attract friends, we must always listen first. Let them talk first about their opinions or ideas and then respond. It’s always better to listen first and not thinking about what are you going to say while listening because you will fully understand what the person is saying and it benefits you also because you are learning from them, at the same time it will help you to know the person. Let us always be reminded by this. “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.”
T he third one is being “DEPENDABLE”. Let them know that you are always there for them. I remember this phrase from a song, “ Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall, all you’ve got to do is call and I’ll be there, you’ve got a friend”. Isn’t it right? That a friend is not only there in good and fun times but will always be there in times of sadness and heartaches. It’s an overwhelming feeling to know that a friend is always there. So guys, don’t you think that it’s a nice thing to do, to secure our friends that we will always be there?
The fourth one is to “KEEP YOUR WORDS”. In friendship it is really important. If you make a promise, then do it whether you like it or not because you are the one who have made it. Keeping your words shows how much you value your friendship with them and I believe that you have also experienced being disappointed by broken promises. Remember that we are here not to disappoint and hurt a friend but to be a friend who brings joy and blessings into their life. Keeping our words is also our integrity according to this verse, “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity” (Proverbs 11:3).
The last but not the least on our list is to “HELP OTHERS SUCCEED”. A friend is there to help and not to destroy and discourage. Always think on how you are going to help someone not gaining for you own wealthness. Being a friend that is not egocentric will definitely attract other people to be your new friend.
I hope this pointer will help you to attract new friends. It will always be a good thing to have so many friends because it is one of the precious gift you’ll receive.

~Tsiny